Looking at your relational patterns and how they came to be
I believe that our earliest relationships have a lasting effect on how we feel about ourselves and what we expect from others. As infants and young children we rely on others to look after us. If we are ignored unless we scream, we learn that the only way to get attention is to demand it. Others' experience may have taught them that the best way to get their needs met was to be compliant. These relational patterns, which made sense in childhood, may lead to difficulties in our adult relationships.